Mother’s day is fast approaching. Some countries celebrate it on different dates from others. Here in UK this year it will fall on the 3rd of April. How Mother’s day began and evolved from generation to generation is a story worth knowing. You may ask it from your folks and surely they will tell you with sentiments and if you like you may go to the web. Regardless how your country tells its own story one thing is for sure, ‘Mothers Day’ is celebrated to give recognition, appreciation and gratitude to all the mothers in the world for their unconditional love and sacrifices for their children. The reason why I am writing this was born out of curiosity of me as a mother. Inevitably I am confronted with difficult questions for myself to answer, ‘Am I a good mother?’ ‘Does my mothering skill deserving of this significant celebration?’ ‘What is it that I have done or haven’t done that made me a good or a bad one?’ Mentally the questions go on and on. I love the idea that I have a selection of the best answers to these questions to favour me indiscriminately but I can’t. To some point I have to be honest to myself – simply I am not good enough in as much as I would like to celebrate and scream to the world, ‘Hey folks I am a good mother and my children can vouch for it.’ ‘Ask them and they will tell you!’ I sound wholly critical of myself but its very hard not to. Looking back, I must admit I did not do too much for my kids. I love them yes but they never had me most of the time – to witness every little thing that matters to them including some big moments or decisions in their lives. If I could start again maybe I would be wiser and I would find a way to be always with them. I do know though that this judgment that I cast on myself is not the same judgment that my children have on me. It is an absolute certainty that my children love me. There is no doubt in my heart that they have understood my shortcomings and have forgiven me. Therefore I would like to conclude as you can tell that I am one of the luckiest mums in the world. To other mums who think I am too far out of your league, I salute you for being perfect. To the rest of mums who can identify with me, do not hammer yourselves, your children love you. Pardon me, I maybe lying here, your circumstances and your children probably maybe different from mine. Mothering after all is very complicated. Taking the positive side of life what constitutes a good or a bad mother is very mysterious to define. In this ever changing world kids are not as simple as we think they are. Happy Mother’s Day! Until next time...be well.Saturday, 26 March 2011
With all my love...Happy Mother’s Day!!
Mother’s day is fast approaching. Some countries celebrate it on different dates from others. Here in UK this year it will fall on the 3rd of April. How Mother’s day began and evolved from generation to generation is a story worth knowing. You may ask it from your folks and surely they will tell you with sentiments and if you like you may go to the web. Regardless how your country tells its own story one thing is for sure, ‘Mothers Day’ is celebrated to give recognition, appreciation and gratitude to all the mothers in the world for their unconditional love and sacrifices for their children. The reason why I am writing this was born out of curiosity of me as a mother. Inevitably I am confronted with difficult questions for myself to answer, ‘Am I a good mother?’ ‘Does my mothering skill deserving of this significant celebration?’ ‘What is it that I have done or haven’t done that made me a good or a bad one?’ Mentally the questions go on and on. I love the idea that I have a selection of the best answers to these questions to favour me indiscriminately but I can’t. To some point I have to be honest to myself – simply I am not good enough in as much as I would like to celebrate and scream to the world, ‘Hey folks I am a good mother and my children can vouch for it.’ ‘Ask them and they will tell you!’ I sound wholly critical of myself but its very hard not to. Looking back, I must admit I did not do too much for my kids. I love them yes but they never had me most of the time – to witness every little thing that matters to them including some big moments or decisions in their lives. If I could start again maybe I would be wiser and I would find a way to be always with them. I do know though that this judgment that I cast on myself is not the same judgment that my children have on me. It is an absolute certainty that my children love me. There is no doubt in my heart that they have understood my shortcomings and have forgiven me. Therefore I would like to conclude as you can tell that I am one of the luckiest mums in the world. To other mums who think I am too far out of your league, I salute you for being perfect. To the rest of mums who can identify with me, do not hammer yourselves, your children love you. Pardon me, I maybe lying here, your circumstances and your children probably maybe different from mine. Mothering after all is very complicated. Taking the positive side of life what constitutes a good or a bad mother is very mysterious to define. In this ever changing world kids are not as simple as we think they are. Happy Mother’s Day! Until next time...be well.
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Saying I love you to your child is not enough,. You can weigh a good mother through her efforts,. the child will always know, even though the expectations of a child is not met. A love of a mother is not selfish. You are willing to give everything to your child without hesitations and bragging. The child will always realize your love and will love you back more than anything in this whole world. This I say,. being me as a mother of my two wonderful and very loving kids,. Ice and Lester,. I dedicate this to you.
ReplyDeleteAnd to you mom,. Happy Mother's day.