The irony of the phrase, “I do”

A long, cold winter is over and the warmth and blooming flowers of April spring promises a romantic setting for a beautiful wedding. In fact the most popular wedding the whole world is awaiting to witness this month is the royal wedding of Prince William and Kate.  What about you? Imagine that today is your wedding day. You are excited and happy. You feel like a new world is smiling to you and waiting for you to walk in. You have been dreaming for this, your ultimate joy and the final waiting stage of your relationship. Then you feel weird and petrified, mixed emotions running through your spine and suddenly you realised that you cannot go back anymore.  It’s the end of the road from your freedom of being single. With this sudden swift of fear, you ask yourself, ' is it still possible to say no and bid goodbye at this point?' Your conscience tells you that it is a catastrophic thing to do. Well of course this is not just an ordinary event - it is your big wedding and it must be a costly one too.  Besides everyone in your family and friends are waiting for this special occasion. With your wedding song in the air you remember of how much you wanted this so badly and now the day has come. As you are heading to the altar your decision is final, ‘you want to get married’. You feel ready to take on another road towards the journey of a married life. Has it ever made you wonder? A wedding is only a day of sacred and momentous ceremony in a couple’s life yet once it’s done it is meant to last a lifetime. Very ironic, huh?  Why do marital vows fail horribly sad in the end for some? Every couple intends to keep their vows and stay married forever in the first place. Is it a lack of personal serious decision making process or cultural unity or commitment and or a question of morals, familial dispute, etc?  Is it because the world is too modern and some marriages simply started with the most unusual and exceptional reasons. Like one young couple who married because one day they felt they were on top of the world and got separated the next when they realised that it was a spur of the moment thing. Bizarre and funny to accentuate but the phrase, ‘I do’ is an ongoing trend rather than a finest family tradition to honour and to cherish. Can long marriages die out through generation? Right now with an ever increasing divorce and separation, there is no doubt that society’s perception behind the sacred meaning of the vows; ‘I do’ has changed over the years. This leaves you to decide, for whatever it takes whether to follow the trend or keep a century’s tradition intact. May I end, saying, “Your marriage' fate lies in your hands.” I wish you a happy wedding day! Until next time...be well.